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I interviewed Bond Woman Eva Green last spring for a Los Angeles Times piece about the 300 sequel. We were alone together in a hotel room. The night before I had seen her naked.
On a gigantic screen I had seen her breasts as she violently mock sexed it up with the male lead. Before the interview I did some meditation to put a lid on the more reptilian, id focused part of my brain so I could behave like a professional when I sat down across from her.
But I won’t lie. I enjoyed seeing her naked in that movie. Eva Green is hot.
So is Jennifer Lawrence.
I don’t want to see Jennifer naked. I don’t want to see such a thing because I don’t have permission.
The Internet is losing its mind over a bunch of stolen celebrity nude photos, Jennifer’s among them. They are only a few keystrokes away. You could go on Google right this moment and find them, easily.
But you should not.
Eva wanted me to see her naked. She wanted everyone to see her body when she filmed that scene. For her, it was an artistic display for the movie.
For Jennifer and the other celebrities who had their privacy violated, they don’t want me to see their naked bodies, and they don’t want you to either.
Those photos were intended to be viewed by a very select group of people. I doubt you’re on that list. I know I’m not.
Were I to search them out and view these photos, I’d be participating in the violation. I’d be part of the problem. I’d be helping to perpetuate this kind of theft.
But they’re already out there, you think. What harm can it do now for me to go look?
Yes, you looking won’t make things any worse for Jennifer and the others. The damage is already done. To them.
I want to prevent damage to you.
I want you to pause and think about how you would feel to see these photos. Think about it for the violation that it is. Again, you do NOT have their permission to see them. They don’t want you looking. Doesn’t it feel shameful to be looking? Doesn’t it feel like a form of assault?
If you have a peek and consider it no big deal, it normalizes the behavior for you. It makes violating people’s privacy, in a sexual way no less, something that you don’t worry about. It makes it feel like you have the right to do so.
This is not a good mindset to have.
I’m not saying looking at these photos will turn you into a rapist, or even a bad person. I just want you to stop and think. We can argue just how bad participating in this privacy violation is and get nowhere. Is it a little bad or a lot bad?
What is certain is: it’s not good.
So don’t look. Endeavor to do less “not good” things is your life. Endeavor to be a better human being. Endeavor to view all with respect and abide by their wishes for privacy. Just because someone is a celebrity doesn’t mean you have the right to see her naked.
Take the higher ground. If you want to see a naked person on the Internet, there is no shortage of people who gave their permission to be filmed without their clothes on. They said yes.
Jennifer Lawrence never said yes to this. Had she been asked, the answer would have been no.
Never forget: Yes means yes, and no sure as hell means no.
James S. Fell, CSCS, is an internationally syndicated fitness columnist for the Chicago Tribune, Los Angeles Times and AskMen.com. He is the author of Lose it Right: A Brutally Honest 3-Stage Program to Help You Get Fit and Lose Weight Without Losing Your Mind, published by Random House Canada.